6 Things Every Bride Should Do For a Stress-Free Wedding
February 3, 2016
Some people love to say "your wedding isn't for you, it's for your guests." But I think that's kind of a bummer. You're the one getting married and in some cases you're the one shelling out the cash.
A perfect wedding is fun for both the couple and the guests. If you’re not in love with the chicken dance, tell your DJ not to play that song. Worried about certain guests not getting along? Seat them far apart and provide pleasantly distracting entertainment (like yard games, a photo booth, etc.).
When you are brimming with happiness it is contagious – the same goes for stress. To ensure you have an anxiety-free day, we suggest starting with the following tips.
1. Make a detailed timeline with LOTS of “cushion” time.
We’ve all sat up at night, unable to sleep because our mind is going over what we need to do tomorrow, this month, next year, etc. Add wedding planning to your agenda and the amount of late-night ceiling staring grows exponentially.
Start making your timeline with the basics. What time do you want to do pictures with your bridal party? How long will it take you to get ready before then? What time do you want to serve dinner? Work around big “events” and list the tasks that need to be done beforehand and after.
If you want help planning a detailed timeline, or you’re afraid you’ll forget something crucial, contact us.
2. If you don’t have one already, hire a day-of coordinator.
Lots of brides start out the planning process thinking that they can do it all. These are DIYers who like to be involved every step of the way. Some may even have prior event planning experience.
If you want a stress-free day, you NEED (yes, NEED) someone you can turn everything over to the day of your wedding. Most will recommend hiring a full wedding coordinator that helps with months of planning, but at the very least you should look into a day-of coordinator.
Little things are bound to pop up during your wedding. For instance, if you’ve rented all your linens, including napkins, there’s a chance your caterer will not fold and place them for you. You don’t want to be that bride folding napkins with your bridesmaids while everyone else is enjoying cocktail hour – trust us.
3. Make a list of the photos you want and give it to your photographer.
This one is pretty straightforward. The power of an actual list your photographer can check off will help speed up photos after your ceremony. Especially after grandma has had her third glass of merlot and you’re trying to herd the flower girls like cats.
4. Make a budget and stick to it.
You don’t want any billing surprises, especially during the days right before and after your wedding. Making a budget will help you visualize how much money you have allocated to each service, and how much you have left over for wiggle-room. Always remember to factor in tax and gratuity.
5. If you’re planning your own vows, go ahead and write them down.
Not everyone is a profound public speaker. Those of us who stress about misspeaking in front of ALL our family and closest friends shouldn't fear the note card!
One little piece of paper can provide a lot of stress relief. You can slip it to your Maid of Honor or Best Man to pass to you, ask your officiant to hold them for you, or carry them down the aisle yourself.
6. Don’t be afraid to have your own special moments throughout the day.
Your wedding day will fly by. Don’t be afraid to take small moments for yourself. Before you head to your venue, have a glass of champagne with just you and your bridesmaids (and maybe your photographer – those pics are too cute). Maybe have your father drive you to the venue so you can have some one on one time before he walks you down the aisle.
Some of your best memories of the day will be with your new significant other. Take time to chat throughout the day, and if you’re lucky enough to find time to eat, let that be uninterrupted time together.